Guys, the way you treat a lady on the first date matters a lot and even if she would eventually date you it gives her an insight on who you are and what your intentions are for her.
1. Be Real:
Bro, do not borrow your friend’s car, buy new clothes you can not afford or try to fake anything. Just be yourself! If she wants to date you she would say yes as long as you’re presentable and don’t look like what was just taken out from the garbage. Do not live a fake life because when the truth comes out she would dump you and you would look stupid in the end. It’s also important not to lie because she would remember things you said on the first date. So do not lie but be real with her.
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2. Make her comfortable:
Many guys would intentionally ask her to come over to their house, so that way they find it easier to have sex with her. Take her to a public place where it is easier for anyone of you to run away when you discover your date is crazy *Lol*. Most ladies would feel more comfortable in a public place and you can have quality time to talk. Ask her the things she likes and do not take her to a place she finds boring just because you like it, do not be selfish.
3. Concentrate on her alone:
Once you set your eyes on her, give her genuine compliments, smile at her, do not start chatting on your phone then or start receiving phone calls and so on. let her know she got your attention full time and all you want right then is her.
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4. Do not break the bank:
It’s not a must to go to a very expensive restaurant if you can’t afford it, so you do not wear a frown when she starts ordering take away *Lol*. Take her to where it is comfortable for your pocket and decent enough. If you start with something very expensive think about how you are going to keep up with all that throughout the relationship.
5. Listen to her talk:
What she says on the first date is very important, so trust me on this, because she might never repeat it again and she assumes you know it already. So listen to all she says about herself, her hobbies and so on. Don’t just talk about yourself alone, remember it’s the two of you.
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6. Do not make it sexual:
When a lady notices you are all about her body, we tend to avoid such people. Most ladies would never have sex in the first date Yes I know we have exceptions to that. On the first date she is just getting to know you, so do not jump on her like a sex starved man. Give her time to fall in love with you and do that entire sexual thing at the right time. Many guys would intentionally pick a dinner date so she can be forced to sleep in their house, be a gentleman and take her home *winks*
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7. Tell her your plans for her:
She did not go out with you just because she was hungry or bored; she can as well remain in her house and drink garri with chilled water like me. She wants to know what exactly you want, what are your plans in life, your plans for her and so on. Any smart girl trust me would ask you questions like it’s an interview, so be prepared. Instead of beating about the bush, be straight forward let her know what you want so she can decide if she wants you in her life or not.
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8. Do not mix it up with family and friends:
First of all, it should be a date between the two of you, were she can be herself and be comfortable. So let’s say situation warrants it, and the first date happens to be a friend’s birthday or your friend’s birthday that you invited her to, you should move her to a place where it can just be the two of you and most importantly do not put your family or friends to the task of increasing your chances with her, by calling her “our wife” and all sorts, even when there’s obviously nothing between you two yet. Such things are irritating, so just keep it simple, and remember it’s a first date.
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9. No Assumptions:
A guy once said ‘we have gone on 2 dates now so that makes me her boyfriend, hehehehehe I just laughed. I had to tell him you need to ask her out officially so you can be sure of where you stand .Do not assume because she laughs at your dry jokes or spends time with you she is already your girlfriend. Trust me if another guy asks her first she might say Yes to him and leave you alone.
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10. Tell her if there would be a 2nd date:
At the end of the first date, tell her how much you enjoyed her company and how you can not wait for the 2nd date .Be truthful about it if you do not want a 2nd date you can just keep quiet. Ladies love new things and new adventures so plan something different and fun for the 2nd date.
Trust me if you follow the things written above she can not say No to the 2nd date. Cheers!!!
Thanks for reading and do have a lovely November ☺