In the pursuit of love, a significant, unrecoverable amount of time is always spent. Some women will certainly make the effort and time worthwhile yet unknown to you; blinded by the veil of love or lust, you’ll continue to waste your time with these types of women.
1. THE”LET’S JUST BE FRIENDS”
At one point or the other in our lives, we’ve all heard the phrase that is most dreaded by the hearts that long for love. “We’ve been friends for so long and I wouldn’t want to jeopardize our relationship so let’s just be friends”. It’s time to pack your bags when you hear this because getting out of the friend zone is synonymous to getting out of Fox River jail. It is not impossible, but extremely unlikely and difficult. She’s certainly not sexually attracted to you and she certainly doesn’t see you as a potential romantic partner, so it will be best you keep things as before and stop hoping that magically she will change her mind by persuasion. Persistent works though, but you certainly don’t want to be a victim of ‘pity-date’. It will end up being a disaster. There’s never a time girls are not ready for a relationship with the right guy; “I’m not ready, I need to concentrate on my career” are just subtle alternatives for “I’m not interested and I don’t like you that way” So suck up your lust and move on. If surprisingly she comes back for your affection, be sure she’s not a desperate woman that has exhausted all her options
2. NOT INTERESTED
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” –Dita Von Teese. Like I always say, “Rejection is normal, everybody can’t like you and it’s not your fault that they don’t”. You’re special in your own way, but you’re certainly not what she wants or you’ve probably been friend zoned. Just do yourself a favor of moving on and finding the girl that deserves your affection. Don’t make yourself a substance of abuse and manipulation, because not all women are nice when they’re not interested.
3. THOSE THAT LEAD YOU ON
Are you falling for a girl who’s giving you mixed signals? Are you head over heels for a girl who blows hot and cold, who behaves like your girlfriend at times and snubs you like you don’t matter at other times when she doesn’t need you? Then you’re certainly wasting your time. It’s always complicated with these kinds of women and the relationship is never defined. Knowing she’s in control of the relationship and with the knowledge of how so attached and obsessed you’re with her, she toys with you and manipulates you. Because of her, you end all potential relationships yet it’s not the same for her. She still flirts with other guys, goes out on dates and worst of it tells you about it. Unknown to you, you will always be her go-to-guy; when she’s bored, needs help, needs an escort and needs help with technical stuffs that you’re good at etc. You’ll do yourself a great deal by avoiding such women. A major tell sign is that every time you start to pull away she suddenly expresses interest or wants to hang out with you & that’s certainly not fair on you. Girls who love leading guys on have fragile egos, so bluntly point it out that you’re not interested and don’t be tempted to be clawed back in when she starts crying about how much she likes you.
4. THE GOLD DIGGER
If you start to realize you often have to pay indirectly or directly for her time and attention, then it’s time to pack your shoes and run. These types of women often don’t like you, they deny you the pleasures of casual man & woman relationships, but yet they still stick around and demand for money. Most times they don’t like you, but they love what you do for them and what they can get from you. Never make the mistake of trying to buy attention. Just avoid her all together and stop wasting your money and time.
5. SHE’S STILL INTO HER EX.
There’s nothing like as terrible as an ex boyfriend lurking in the background to potentially cast a shadow of doubt over a promising new relationship. Often times his name blurts into your conversation and she can’t hide the affection and emotions when she talks about him. You also find her still keeping tabs with her ex on social media, flirting and still having intimate conversations. She’s probably still having sex with him or won’t think twice to give it a go. Most times she just dated you out of convenience, as a rebound relationship or you were just the available option. This type of woman can never be fully committed to you, so do yourself save a great good by letting her go. If she has resolved her affections for her ex, then maybe you can get back.
6. SELFISH & EMOTIONALLY DISTANT
You could be the happiest man in the world and these dementors will suck out the joy in you. The irony is that they’re often very pretty and that’s what gets you very attached to them. These type of women are often the “I’m very busy type”, they can’t sacrifice and they rarely create time. They clamor for gender equality only when it favors them yet they expect you to do all the calling, texting and chasing. It’s not surprising that these women are also often boring with little or no social skills, yet her beauty gets you fixed on her. Majority of them want to date very successful men way above their status and to them you’re just a backup plan. Never mortgage your happiness on beauty. Move on.
7. THE FLAKE
You’ve shaved, had that great hair cut, cleaned your terribly untidy room, probably made reservations, yet this girl you planned to see stood you up. This can be excruciatingly painful especially for those that shaved and oiled their balls in preparation. Quite alright things can come up and a lady might not be able to meet up with a date, but when this becomes a frequent occurrence, and she flakes out on you, not twice, nor thrice, or worse if she never genuinely apologies or make it up to you, It will be best if you forget her because she simply doesn’t value you.
A single woman is like a speck of dust on a beach; not relative to her value, but relative to numbers. There are a lot of beautiful, good and more deserving women that you can invest more time and effort in, and you will be sure that not only would your efforts not go unappreciated, it would also be worth it!