So similar in strength, yet so different, such is the case of love and lust. Both are powerful emotions that are felt by us all, yet one is healthy and the other isn’t. Due to the similarities in the way these intoxicating emotions are felt, it then becomes so difficult at times to be sure whether what you feel for a particular individual is love or lust. Fear not, I always have you in mind. This list is your sure guide on how to discern lust from love.
1. You have little background info on the person:
It’s most likely definitely lust if you have little or no background info on the person you’re sexually involved with. The mystery intrigues you; you’re just attracted to them on the surface and never gave yourself the time to get to know them. In comparison to love, as a good stalker that you’re, you probably have their background info even without them telling you. You are interested in every detail of their life and there’s a nice feeling that comes with getting to know them better.
2. The relationship centers on sex:
When every meet up and conversation centers only on sex, you can be certain it’s lust. In such cases you don’t play games together, you don’t have serious conversations or go out on casual dates. All that matters is getting in bed. Eventually you burn out. But with love, there’s more to the relationship than sex, and other pleasurable ways to have fun.
3. It’s all about the physical
All you care about is the physical! How hot she looks, how handsome he is. How rich he is and how he/she appeals to you. Remove all the finery and the material things; you’ll realize you don’t love the person.
4. No commitment
This is one sure sign that you’re in lust rather than love. Both parties do not feel committed and most likely have other partners or are still seeing other people. When you don’t feel accountable for your actions and inactions towards your partner, it’s definitely lust. Unless one partner has started to catch strong feelings, there’s hardly the suspicion of cheating because the relationship has no proper foundation and there’s no commitment.
5. No plans for the future
It’s only someone you love that you think about moving in together with, getting married to or making a family. When you never talk about the future or help each other improve or advance. It’s definitely lust
6. Crazy fantasies come true.
They happen to be all what you fantasize about but not what’s good for you. Things get really intense, dramatic and quite enjoyable but yet you find yourself compromising on your principles, going renegade on your values and doing wild unimaginable stuffs you wouldn’t have done.
7. Vulnerability is not an option.
With them you can’t feel mushy, you don’t share too much, you don’t let them in on the things that bother you just so that things don’t get complicated and it stops being fun for someone. To you, they’re flawless and you rather remain flawless in their eyes by not sharing your problems, insecurities and secrets.