Women are vague and mysterious creatures.
It can feel difficult to read them and impossible to determine exactly what it is that they want.
One of the most difficult things to determine is whether a woman you want to date, wants anything more than a friendship.
They might agree to go on a first date with you, but then never call or text you back. They might act like they’re interested in you at a group get-together, but show no signs of wanting to be alone with you. They might even act like they’re not interested in you at all, yet may genuinely be looking for something more.
You might be asking yourself:
How do I know if a girl likes me? How do I know if she’s really interested in dating me or if she’s just being polite?
While it can feel impossible to determine…
All you have to do is look for the telltale signs she likes you.
Subconsciously, women will do things (and give signs) that show how they really feel. These signs she gives will either tell you:
- That she’s truly interested in you
- That she wants nothing more than friendship with you
So, to know how to tell if a girl likes you, all you need to do is read the signs that she’s giving you.
In this article, I’m going to give you an insider’s look into the female mind. I’m going to break down the most common signs a woman gives when she likes you.
How To Tell If A Girl Likes You: The Ultimate Guide
I’m sure this won’t surprise you, but there is not a short answer to the question, “How do you know if a girl likes you?”
Women are complex, and there are quite a few things to consider when determining if they’re actually interested in you (rather than just being polite).
I highly recommend you read through this entire guide because there’s a lot of important information.
The 5 Different Types Of Flirting
If you’re trying to decide whether a girl likes you, you should start by figuring out if she’s flirting with you.
What you probably don’t know:
There are multiple different types of flirting. According to WedMD, the 5 different types are:
TYPE #1: PHYSICAL
Physical touch is very important when it comes to flirting.
If the girl you’re interested in has been playfully touching your shoulder and giving you “flirtatious shoves” (a gentle push on your shoulder or arm), this is a good sign.
Another sign of physical flirtation could be her touching your arm while the two of you are talking, or pulling you in to whisper something in your ear.
There are many ways to show physical flirting, so take note if she touches you in any way while the two of you are together.
Many times, physical flirting can cross over into sincere flirting (type #4 below), which we’ll talk more about later.
TYPE #2: TRADITIONAL
Traditional flirting occurs when a man flirts with a woman and the woman, more or less, “receives” his flirting.
Many men function within the “traditional flirting” realm…
…and many girls respond well to being pursued in this whole-hearted, old fashioned manner.
TYPE #3: POLITE
Polite flirting is, essentially, one party telling another party they’re interested in the other (in a direct, forward fashion).
Unfortunately, polite flirting isn’t the norm in the 21st century, so your friend might not come right out and say, “Hey. I like you.”
TYPE #4: SINCERE
This is the type of flirting you want to be most aware of, and the type of flirting I’m going to focus on in this article.
Sincere flirting is genuine in nature and expresses a desire to connect emotionally. It is unlike the other types of flirting in that there is much more substance and purpose behind it.
Think about it:
Wouldn’t you say that, when the girl you’re interested in wants to have a more emotional connection with you, this is a definite sign she likes you?
TYPE #5: PLAYFUL
Playful flirting is exactly what it sounds like… “playful.”
While it can sometimes cross over into sincere flirting, it often just means that a girl enjoys flirting with you.
It usually comes in the form of flirtatious touching, but with no “substance” to back it up.
What Type Of Flirting Should I Look For?
Of the 5 types of flirting above, you want to pay particular attention to 3 of them:
- Sincere flirting
- Playful flirting
- Physical flirting
If a girl is sincerely flirting with you, there’s a good chance she likes you.
If she is playfully or physically flirting with you, she’s showing some interest. It doesn’t necessarily mean she likes you yet, but these two types of flirting are often the precursors to more sincere flirting.
You might be wondering:
How can I tell if a girl is sincerely flirting with me?
Above, I promised I was going to give you some insight into the female mind. To help you spot sincere flirting, I’m going to share 17 telltale sincere flirting signals(which are 17 telltale signs a girl likes you).
17 Telltale Signs A Girl Likes You
Broadly speaking, a girl will show you she likes you by sincerely flirting with you in one of two places:
Place#1: In person
Place #2: Via digital means (texting, phone calls, Instagram, etc.)
In-Person Signs She Likes You (11 Signs)
Here are 11 signs that a girl will show you in-person that may tell you if she likes you and is looking for something more:
#1. SHE DOESN’T HESITATE SAYING YES WHEN YOU ASK HER TO HANG OUT.
A girl who genuinely likes you isn’t going to hesitate when you ask to hang out.
When you ask her to get a bite to eat with you, she’ll usually smile and say sure or absolutely.
And if she does have something planned…
…she’ll try to reschedule:
“Oh I can’t. I’m so sorry…but I’d love to try something another time!”
“I have plans tomorrow…but I’m free on Saturday!”
#2. SHE’S TOLD HER FRIENDS ABOUT YOU.
I’ll let you in on a little secret:
Women love talking with their girlfriends about the guy they have a crush on.
How do you know if she’s told her friends about you?
Usually, girls will unintentionally tell you:
If, while the two of you are hanging out, she says something like, “I was telling my roommate the other day about how you had never seen Jurassic Park. She couldn’t believe it either!” then you can be pretty sure she’s interested in more than friendship.
#3. SHE DOES SPECIFIC THINGS WHEN YOU’RE IN A GROUP SETTING
When you’re first getting to know each other, it’s likely you’ll hang out in a group setting.
If a girl is interested in you (and aside from common in-person flirting signs) she will:
- Frequently look at you (you can tell this if you two make a lot of eye contact)
- Make it a point to sit close enough to you that the two of you can talk
Either of these are a great sign.
#4. SHE INITIATES PHYSICAL TOUCH WHEN YOU’RE IN PUBLIC.
Here, there are two different scenarios to consider:
When You First See Her:
What does your friend do when you first see each other?
Awkward wave? High five? Side hug?
If a girl likes you, she’ll likely do something that breaks the intimate “touch barrier.” The most common way she’ll do it is through a sincere hug. A sincere hug is more than the standard “greeting” hug, and may even be closer to a bear hug.
This means she feels comfortable around you and has no problem breaking the “touch barrier.”
When You’re Hanging Out:
Pay attention to the number of times she touches you.
If it’s more than 5 times while you’re together (specifically on the knee, shoulder, or arm), then she’s further breaking that “touch barrier.”
Physical contact is important in any relationship, and it’s a great sign if she’s already breaking the touch barrier down.
#5. CONVERSATIONS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU SEEMS EFFORTLESS.
Both your conversations and your time together seem effortless.
A two hour date suddenly turns into an eight hour date, and neither of you seem to notice where the time went.
If this is happening to you…
…she definitely likes you.
Don’t think twice about it.
#6. YOU’RE STARTING TO SEE HER “DORKY” SIDE.
A woman who is comfortable with and sincerely likes you will start to reveal things she doesn’t share with the rest of the world.
Many times, this can come in the form of an embarrassing quirk she has…
…or watching her nerd-out about her favorite book or TV series.
The two of you are comfortable together, and neither of you has to be someone that you’re not.
#7. SHE HAS OPENLY TOLD YOU SOME PERSONAL THINGS ABOUT HER LIFE.
Think about the conversations you two have.
If this girl really likes you, your conversations won’t always remain surface level. In fact, these conversations can turn personal very quickly.
You don’t just know what her favorite movie is…
…you also know what some of her biggest goals and dreams are.
If she isn’t afraid to reveal the more personal stuff to you, it means she trusts you. With women, trust is not something freely or easily given.
#8. SHE’S MENTIONED AN EVENT IN THE FUTURE SHE WANTS TO GO TO WITH YOU.
This should be a dead giveaway of her interest.
When a woman includes you in her plans for the future, it means she wants you there…in her future.
This could include her saying anything from, “We should see that movie when it comes out,” to “There’s this wedding coming up and I’d love for you to go with me.”
While these are two extremes, any time a girl includes you her plans for the future is a good sign.
#9. SHE WANTS YOU TO MEET HER ROOMMATES/FRIENDS.
Most women won’t date a guy who hasn’t been given the stamp of approval by her closest friends.
So, if she’s saying things like, “You totally have to meet my roommates. They’d love you!” or “My roommates have been dying to meet you,” it tells you two things:
- She’s told her friends about you (sign #2)
- She want her friends’ opinion of you
If she’s including her friends in the process, she thinking about keeping you around for a while.
#10. SHE’S FULLY PRESENT WHEN SHE’S WITH YOU.
Is your girl constantly checking her Facebook, sending texts, or making calls when she’s with you?
If a girl really likes you, she’ll be fully present when you’re together, especially one-on-one.
She may check her Instagram a few times or send an occasional text, but for the most part, she’s really engaged with what you two are doing or talking about.
If she’s more focused on you than her phone, it’s a great sign.
#11. SHE’S WANTS TO HANG OUT ONE-ON-ONE.
It’s usually during one-on-one time that relationships move to the next level. There are countless things that may happen here that likely wouldn’t happen when you’re hanging with a group:
- More personal conversations
- More intimate flirting
- A kiss
So, if you’ve been consistently hanging out with a girl for 5-6 weeks, and she still doesn’t want to hang out with just you when you ask, she may only want to be friends.
Digital Signs She Likes You (6 Signs)
Technology plays a significant role in today’s intimate relationships.
According to Pew Research, 41% of young adults in serious relationships report feeling closer to their partner because of technology.
So, if you’re wondering how to know if a girl likes you, it’s important to consider the digital signs. Here are signs a girl likes you that you should look for in text messages, phone calls, social media, etc.
#1. THE TWO OF YOU TEXT AT LEAST EVERY OTHER DAY.
It’s a really good sign if you’re in fairly consistent contact with the girl you like.
There are two things to note with this:
- If a girl likes you, she’s going to respond to your texts quickly
- The more you talk, the more likely it is that she likes you
#2. AND ON THAT NOTE…SHE ISN’T SENDING YOU ONE WORD RESPONSES WHEN YOU INITIATE TEXTING HER.
When you text her, she doesn’t respond with something like “hey.” or “fine.”
Look out for the one word responses with a period after them. If you’re getting those from a girl, you might want to take a step back.
Girls who are interested in a guy will try to keep a texting conversation going.
#3. IN FACT…SHE EVEN INITIATES TEXTING YOU PRETTY OFTEN.
This is a definite sign she likes you.
If the lady you like is consistently initiating text conversations…
…it means you’re on her mind and she wants to be in contact with you.
#4. SHE POSTS PICTURES ON SOCIAL MEDIA SHOWING THAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE BEEN HANGING OUT.
If you see pictures of yourself on any of her social channels, it’s a great sign she likes you.
If she in any way broadcasts to the world that she’s been hanging out with you, she probably wants it to be known that she’s “talking” to someone.
Don’t quickly go and follow all of her social channels. Just keep an eye where you’re already connected.
#5. SHE POSTS THINGS ON YOUR FACEBOOK WALL OR TAGS YOU IN THINGS SHE THINKS YOU’LL LIKE.
This one is huge.
When women have feelings for someone, we tend to think everything reminds us of them.
Think about it:
You watch a movie and think, “Oh, (girl you’re crushin’ on) would love that.”
You see a new restaurant and think, “Oh, I should totally tell (girl you’re crushin’ on) about that place. She loves Asian food.”
You see a hilarious YouTube video and think, “(Girl you’re crushin’ on) would die laughing at this. I’ve got to show her.”
It’s the same for women. If she’s posting things on your social media channels, it means you’re definitely on her mind.
#6. WHEN YOU TALK ON THE PHONE, THE TWO OF YOU HAVE NO PROBLEM TALKING FOR A WHILE.
Every time you call, she seems excited to talk.
Just like with in-person signnumber 5 above, conversations on the phone feel effortless.
If your phone calls extend past 5-10 minutes (semi-consistently), it’s a great sign.
How Many Signs Should You Look For To Be Sure She Likes You?
While there’s no hard and fast rule, but if a girl shows:
Five or more of these signs, it’s likely she’s interested in a relationship.
Three or four, she’s definitely showing some interest, but things probably need more time to develop.
One or two isn’t enough to tell if she likes you. It doesn’t mean the door is completely closed, though. If you like her, continue pursuing her and wait for her to show you more signs.
Figuring out if a girl likes you and is ready for a relationship is never black or white.
But if you’re wondering how to tell if a girl likes you, these signs are a definite way to help you identify if a girl is interested in you.