The supposed traits of a “wife material” has been exhausted by the world; I would say she must know how to bake, some would say she must know how to twerk, but then it’s obvious to realize that you can’t have it all. There are no perfect women and men probably fantasize too much, yet there are good women and you need no more reason to marry her than this 15 discussed here.
1. Aside the sexual intimacy, she’s fun to be with:
While kissing, sex, cuddling and all forms of sexual intimacy might be great, you can’t have them 24/7. How interesting she’s then becomes important. So don’t be quick to let go of a woman that has an interesting personality and is fun to be with. They’re rare!! Some women can’t be funny to save themselves.
2. She’s independent:
The western world has moved beyond “He’s the Man” so he is the “All provider”. Good thing is that we Africans are gradually changing our mentality. While a man should be a man and provide for his family, a woman should also bring something to the table. Don’t go for the needy women and the obvious gold diggers.
3. She motivates and pushes you to succeed:
A good potential wife has this quality inbuilt in her. She believes in your dreams, motivates you when you’re losing hope and gives you a healthy push to get out of your comfort zone and succeed legally.
4. Your friends and family like her:
It’s fair to say your family wants the best for you and if at all there’s conflict in the family they can’t all have a singular bad opinion of her, and there’s absolutely no doubt your true friends want the best for you. If she’s loved by all then you’re sure that some future marriage problems have been eliminated.
5. She gets along with your mum and the women in your life:
You should avoid and run from women who don’t relate well with other women. It’s important that she gets along with your mum at least to a healthy extent. They don’t have to be best buddies but they should get along because in the end you might be forced to choose between the two of them.
READ: DATING A MAMA’S BOY?
6. Kindheartedness and humility
Your wife is a part of you and her actions and inactions will always have consequences on you & you’ll always be judged for them. So when you find a woman that is kindhearted and meek, you’re certain you’ve found a good woman. Avoid the types that snap harshly at the maid, insult the waiter for no reason, treat the janitor like a subhuman being, look down on people, act superciliously and treat people of little means as inferior. A woman that is only kind to people of her own social standing is a bad one.
7. She fits into the crowd:
If you can’t proudly walk on the streets with her, don’t wife her. A woman that dresses well to suit the occasion & blends freely with any gathering is priceless. Not only blends but can make meaningful contributions to conversations. Not the type that asks, “who is Bill gate? “ In the midst of your elite friends
8. The sex is not boring:
A successful marriage is for a lifetime and you sure don’t want to get stuck with a boring sex life. Sex can be monotonous as the years go by, so a woman that is open-minded to being adventurous in sex, is for keeps.
9. She can cook well:
We both know there’s a good feeling attributed to eating a good meal, which is also extended to the cook. And you sure don’t want your kids to be eating out always or worse your family to be grumbling while eating a meal prepared by your wife.
10. Hospitable and caring:
Is she homely? Is she caring? Can she tolerate guest and be kind to strangers? If the answer to the questions is yes, then what are you waiting for? You need a woman that is friendly, treats people nicely, make people feel welcomed and also selfless in her actions.
11. You can be vulnerable with her:
With her, you don’t need to pretend, with her you can open up, with her you can be down or even break down and you won’t feel less of a man. She’s definitely “wifey material”.
12. You see a future with her:
In the end, we men know who we want. If you can picture a future with her as your wife and mother of your kids then don’t waste any more time. Put a ring on it!!
13. She’s reasonable and understanding:
Marriage is meant to be for a lifetime so you obviously need a partner that understands you, understands your mood, knows your weaknesses, knows when you have to manage or curb spending, understands when you are busy or unavailable and is not selfish. If you find that kind-hearted woman, she’s for keeps.
14. Plain and honest:
It’s probably unavoidable for any human not to lie, but there are some degrees to it. A woman is a “wifey material” if she’s loyal, honest to a very good extent, transparent, and comfortable with her humble/wealthy beginnings. Avoid the women that live fake lives, go for the WYSIWYG (What you see is what you get) kind of woman. Relationships are built on trust.
15. She doesn’t come with a lot of baggage:
No one is perfect. You’re not perfect as well. Unless you want to order your wife from a wife making factory, you shouldn’t expect too much from her. Like I always say, it is our flaws that make us unique; both physical and personality. So as long as she’s a good woman and her pros outweighs the cons, then you should go for her.