The mystery of love is one that can never be solved; beautiful and special in its manifestations, yet so complicated and profound in nature. While true love might be elusive, experiencing it is magical! To love is a wonderful thing, but to be loved by another is much better. We all want to be loved, yet to be in love with the idea of being in love is a terrible thing. Being in love with the concept of love might seem trivial, yet it is selfish, naïve and leaves a trail of disappointments, heart breaks and hurt. Not sure if you’re in love with the concept of being in love? Below are the signs.
1. LOVE JUNKIE:
Here are the traits of a romance junkie: You’re the type that your pupils widen and eyes glister at the sight of a romantic picture or wordings on the internet. You don’t take things slow at the onset of a relationship. Your phone is filled with pictures of relationship goals images, romantic sayings, cute families etc. You’re so crazed about love and romance that a day can’t go without your daily fix or you thinking of how you’ll find it. You’re obsessed with celebrity couples, you can’t keep talking about weddings and proposals with your friends. Relationships are food for your soul and to you, you feel finding love will make you fulfilled and make everything better.
2. YOU’RE A PERFECTIONIST:
The fairytale dream is so alluring that you want your love life to be just like the ones you see in the movies. So you seek for perfection in your relationships. You always want things to be just as you imagined it or to be like the ideal relationships the new media preaches. You fail to realize that humans are not perfect and love itself is not perfect.
3. HIGH EXPECTATIONS
When you’re a love junkie that is addicted to the concept of love, you’ll certainly be emotionally demanding and have very high expectations in your relationships. The mental picture of how things ought to be when you’re in love is plastered on your brain; so when your reality comes short of how things ought to be in your fantasy world, you demand for irrational things from your partner and set your expectations very high. Too bad the world is designed to disappoint you once in a while.
4. CLINGY & EMOTIONALLY DEMANDING
Your love is so overwhelming and you suffocate your partner with it. You pay less attention to things happening in your life and put so much focus on the “love”. You’re too needy and always in demand of attention. You can hardly have fun on your own and your happiness is so dependent on other people. Get a life!
5. BEING SINGLE IS A DISEASE
You find yourself jumping from one relationship to another and from one heart break to another. You never give yourself time to heal and being single is more like an illness. To you relationships are a necessity because you believe one should always be in love.
6. NO SATISFACTION
In every relationship you feel only you matter. You think the world revolves around your butt and since your fairytale perfection, high expectations and love fantasy cannot be met, you find yourself nagging and complaining a lot in your relationships and you’re never satisfied with your reality. On the long run you become unfaithful.
7. YOU COMPARE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
You find yourself using other “happy” couples as your yard stick for how your relationships should be, while not realizing that even your role model couples have it rough and their relationship might even be rotten to the core. Yet you dwell on the facade they show to the world.
8. YOU CONSTANTLY WANT TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER
You don’t totally embrace your partner for who they truly are; their differences and short comings that make them unique never go well with you. You constantly want them to assume the character of how an ideal lover should be. You want them to do this; you want them to do that. In the bid to make them “perfect” for you, you constantly try to change them.
9. YOU PRESSURE FOR TOO MUCH COMMITMENT TOO SOON
You’re the type that doesn’t know how to take things slow. You always pressure for too much too soon. To live and dwell in the moment is never enough for you. You always want to fast track things and see whether all your fantasies come true. Eventually it blows up in your face as you’re never patient enough for things to fall into place naturally.
10. YOU STAY IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP
Even though you’re in an abusive relationship or a relationship that is not worthwhile; you still find yourself not leaving the relationship even when you have the chance to take the exit. For you, losing a partner means losing a lover and you just don’t want to feel this. The dread of being single is also just as enough to remain in the bad and beyond repair relationship.
If you’re a love junkie, you need to realize that life is not a fairytale and real life relationships are certainly not simple nor are laid down in clear blue prints. Love is a commitment and a choice, in which you continue to compromise and sacrifice. Love is not what we see in disney movies. Get over your fantasy and addiction. I recommend you google search love junkie. You’ll see a lot of healthy materials that will help you. Cheers!!