It’s funny how someone you used to love suddenly becomes an object of hate or disgust. Someone you so much cared for and could barely do without. Their attention that you once craved for suddenly becomes one you had best avoid. The Effect of Cupid’s arrow has waned, and the love that so much intoxicated you has now become depressing and poisonous. In this article are reasons why people fall out of love. Read: Guide to overcoming clinginess in your relationships
1. TAKING EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED
It is said that if we all took our relationships serious or were as committed as we were at the beginning of our relationships, break ups will no doubt go into extinction. Relationships are like a sigmoid curve, the early stages are progressive and trilling, then it reaches a stationary phase where individual partners invest so little effort, and eventually the love dies due to neglect, lack of passion and laziness.
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This often comes after “taking each other for granted”. The relationship loses its spark and becomes insufferable. Some partners are also downright boring and exhausting and often kill the relationship with monotony. The relationship that was once spontaneous and colorful becomes gray and lifeless.
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When soberness begins to take the place of love intoxication, and the tummy butterflies that used to dance all night are now passive, it becomes evident to some couples that they’re not compatible in their socioeconomic standings; be it religious, lifestyle. Priorities, career etc. Genotype incompatibility is also one important factor that has broken many relationships. Read: 7 Tricky questions girls ask guys and how best to answer them
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4. WHEN EXPECTATIONS ARE NOT MET
People come into relationships with relatively high hopes and expectations. Early stages of the relationships might seem tolerable and in the end, one part is not just comfortable and can’t continue to cope further. The relationship then becomes a liability that must just be dropped. Read: She’s just not that into you: signs and remedies
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5. AMBITION CONFLICT:
This occurs when both partners don’t seem to see eye to eye and come to a compromise as regards their ambition and career. They’re both busy, their work schedule doesn’t give them time to bond, where her career is taking her will have to make her leave town or do some things he doesn’t really agree with. This leads to various conflicts and eventually they fall out of love.
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6. THE RELATIONSHIP WASN’T BUILT ON A SOLID FOUNDATION
If the relationship started poorly, moved too fast in the beginning, or was the product of an affair, it’s likely not rooted enough to withstand time or overcome any real relation (eharmony.com).
This sure turns the sweet tonic wine of love into a bitter and unpleasant broth that can’t be imbibed. Acts of betrayal like cheating, hiding important things, lying, pretense and not being sincere with ones partner often leads to irrevocable hateful feelings, which eventually snuffs out any feelings of love. Read: Tips on how to avoid being treated like an option/backup plan by people
8. OTHER UNFORESEEN CIRCUMSTANCES
Unforeseen circumstances like your jobs taking you to far places, family feud, cultural differences and any other external factors like diseases and impairments kills the relationship.
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