Relationship hazard seems to be looming everywhere in our communities today such that uncertainty of how much we are loved is killing our love life. We all certainly want the best yet external factors seem to rob us of it. I want to help unlock one of the beliefs that roam around our love life today. Ladies have decided to stick to the stereotype that “Men Will Always Cheat.” It has some elements of truth yet not so true. These are six reasons why men cheat:
1. TEMPTATION AND LUST:
Civilization and modern fashion seems to always bring out the best out of our ladies. Augmenting the curvy shapes and making it look more pronounced seems to be the ultimate goal of many women and as we all know, the visual appeals to men more than anything. We are easily moved by what we see. The high level of promiscuity in the society, and the outcry of ladies “figure eight” makes it hard to turn away. Many men just cheat for the sex; not due to lack of love or any other reason.
2. OUR BIOLOGY:
Men are inclined to get attracted to certain features in a woman such as body symmetry, their bosom and hips. The animal instinct of men urges them to have sex with and impregnate as many female as possible. Our prehistoric ancestors lived polygamous lives. Even in medieval western history, it was normal to have an official mistress. For men, it’s sexual appeal first before consideration of their potential mate’s personality which is subject to exemption. The advent of effective contraceptives has also contributed to their promiscuous ways. Thank God for the aptitude to think, this makes man to exercise self control in his dealings with the opposite sex. Read: How the human aptitude to think influences our animal instincts sexually
3. BOREDOM AND THE THRILL OF A NEW WOMAN:
Monogamy and commitment is burdensome and exhausting for some men, particularly when the relationship has lost its spark and is no longer spontaneous. So they look for excitement outside the relationship. The thrill (her smell, looks, resistance, the chase and the thought of having sex with her) of a new women is also a phenomenon that can’t be ignored as all men are susceptible to it.Read: How to make him yours forever
4. WHEN A GUY FEELS UNWANTED:
This is a very sensitive part and it happens mostly in marriage. When their manly ego is not respected and they are made to feel less valued and important; men tend to go astray. They cheat in an attempt to stabilize their emotional insecurities and find solace and care in the other woman. Read: She’s just not that into you: signs & remedies
5. LOSS OF ATTRACTION AND UNMET SEXUAL DESIRES:
When a man no longer finds his partner sexually attractive or appealing, and his sexual desires or expectations are not being met; probably the girlfriend or wife is always busy and not to open to experimentation in bed, he then goes out of the relationship to satisfy himself. Read: 10 things men want in a woman.
6. THE ADDICTS AND BORN CHEATERS:
Some men are just born cheaters; they need no reason to cheat. Even if they’re in the perfect relationships and their partner is as beautiful as a goddess, they will still sneak around to sleep with the ugliest troll they can find. These men are so addicted to sex, can hardly change and will always continue to cheat, unless probably by divine intervention. Read: 10 steps on how to react when you catch him pants down
7. OTHER FACTORS:
He is just probably a cheat and irresponsible liar. He probably doesn’t love you enough or still has affection for his ex. Some men are also damaged while growing up and will always seek to find solace in sex with other women. Other reasons are influence from friends, lack of discipline and self control.
When a man cheats, there is rarely any emotional attachment; most times it’s just for the sex. He cheating, doesn’t men she’s not beautiful or the relationship is unhealthy or because he is not capable of love. It’s fair to say that most men cheat, yet there are few exceptions that don’t get caught or cheat at all. Women should also realize that it takes two to tangle. Talk to yourselves!!