You must be mystified wondering how terrorism and romance could co-exist. The amalgamation of these two words, though difficult to comprehend, but yet very true is either unnoticeable or obviously present in most relationships. Romantic terrorism occurs when an individual creates non-existent conflicts and struggles between relation/friendships to demand one thing only: To be loved in return (Urban dictionary).
Famous in the movie, “My last 5 girlfriends”, is this quote: Romantic Terrorism isn’t like normal terrorism. Your ordinary terrorist might have outrageous demands, but the romantic terrorist has the most outrageous demand of all – To be loved. In this article are ways you practice romantic terrorism.
1. BEING IRRATIONAL & CREATING CONFLICTS OUT OF TRIVIAL MATTERS
This is common with people with inferiority complex, mushy people, drama queens, and people with low self esteem. Common examples are getting jealous over nothing, inferring negative connotations to things your partner says, crying over nothing, making a big deal out of trivialities and blowing things out of proportions. These are deliberately done in order to make your partner drawback to you, be apologetic, feel guilty and affirm their love for you.
Deliberately or naturally being excessively clingy and needy in an attempt to make your partner feel responsible for you or feel like he or she owes you something is a sure act of romantic terrorism. In the end your partner or friend feels bad and guilty when he/she can’t meet your needs or tolerate you. Most times the person then ends up resenting you and becomes distant to you.
3. DELIBERATELY MAKING YOUR PARTNER JEALOUS
This sure tops the list and is a great card to play when practicing romantic terrorism. Deliberately flirting with people of opposite sex, in the presence of your partner, just to get a reaction from them in other to prove that they love or care about you is a great act of romantic terrorism. Though it could work at times yet it’s a demeaning act which can backfire anytime.
4. PRESSURING FOR TOO MUCH COMMITMENT TOO SOON.
Patience they say is a virtue. When you start asking for too much in an attempt to certify that your partner loves you, you’re romantically terrorizing them. Common examples are asking them to move in with you when they’re not ready, demanding spare keys to his home when he’s not yet comfortable, pressuring them for marriage or to meet with their family, when they’re not yet comfortable with that decision.
5. ACTS OF VIOLENCE
This is the worst and most brutal act of romantic terrorism. Common with mentally unstable and obsessed individuals, these cruel and selfish acts include, attempting or threatening to kill or physically injure yourself or your partner, if they don’t love you or attempt to leave you. Blackmail and destruction of properties are also acts of romantic terrorism that should never be practiced.
In the end, we all want to be loved. But love, if returned through romantic terrorism, is always tainted and not pure (thelovewhisperer.me). You either end up pity-dated or end up in an inconvenient relationship that is bound to fail,