THE GIRL CODE

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Famous in a TV series is the BRO CODE. And while it is popular among the guys who take the pain to have each others back, the ladies seem to have forgotten we have this thing called ‘SISTERHOOD’. In actual fact, ‘Sisterhood’ is unknown to a lot of ladies. It only exists in the circle of strong women- ‘Sisters’ who are confident and so sure of themselves they needn’t put other ‘sisters’ down before life begins for them.

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I know as ‘sisters’, a whole of us had missed it. We think that protecting each other is a job meant for the bigwig feminists. It was Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie who in her book said ‘We Should All Be Feminists’. Feminism to a ‘sister’ like me is not a struggle for equality, but an understanding that ‘I am first human before I am male or female’. Okay, before we blame our misdemeanor on ignorance, here is a list of ‘THE GIRL- CODE’. Otherwise, you can call it the ‘THE SISTERHOOD PRINCIPLES’.
1.Never talk ill of another ‘sister’ before the BROS (I know it’s hard to take gossips away from some of us, but please, not before a BRO) only faint hearts do.
2.Don’t sit over some cupcakes discussing a sisters’ many struggles and mistakes (strong women spend time bringing others up and not tearing them down).
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3.Never go all out to fight another SISTER over a BRO. (Real men are not stolen. A BRO who wants to be kept will be).
4.Don’t make a BRO make you feel less valued than you are ( you don’t live to please him or satisfy him).
5. Stay away from the married men ( You’re the reason his wife cries herself to sleep every night).
 
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6.Learn to accept Compliments gracefully. (When anyone say you’re beautiful, don’t reply with comments like ‘You think so?’, ‘I m trying to shed some weight’, or ‘this pimple on my face’). You will remain beautiful in the eyes of the beholder until you convince him otherwise.

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7. Get busy, Get a Life! (Your life is not waiting for the ‘right man’ to begin. Get a purpose and run with it).
8. Don’t give a BRO too much, too soon.(Our hearts are tender, stop putting ’em up to be broken over and again).
9.Never date a bestie’s ex. (Look further, the field is wide and green. Choose from the pack).
10.Stop conceding to requests of random BROS calling to say they want to pass the night. (You are not a dumping ground and they are not homeless either).

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11.Kill the urge to ‘beef’ other ‘Sisters’ who are doing well.(Don’t listen to BROS who think Linda Ikeji didn’t make her money through blogging. She did. Celebrate excellence in other ‘sisters’).

12. Learn to wear your face natural sometimes.(The loud red lipstick doesn’t exactly flatter some of us. Stop making it a 7days- in- a week thing).
13. Celebrate the single mothers amongst us. They’ve got strength most of us don’t. (They refuse to cover a sin with another sin).
14. Never resort to jesting or mocking another ‘sister who is bad at what you’re pro in.(Correct her and help be a better version of herself).

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15.Real ‘sisters’ keep secrets. (Stop re- telling the world what a ‘sister’ told you in trust).

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16.Real ‘sisters’ are not afraid to cry. If it helps, why not.(It doesn’t reduce you, or show signs of weakness. Stop bottling up emotions. Cry, wipe your tears; and smile. The world loves you).
17.Real ‘sisters’ ain’t fake.(They don’t take pictures in hotels and upload ‘home sweet home).
18.Real ‘sisters’ don’t use vulgar lines. (There’s nothing sexy about foul and vulgar words. It shows a lack of taste, culture and manners. And a true sister is none of that)
19.True sister do not trivialize sexual matters. (Your life is precious. You are not a BRO. lol).

20.Real ‘sisters’ build themselves spiritually, mentally, and all. They understand that they wield a sceptre of influence on the BROS in their life and the world at large. Real ‘sisters are mothers/will be mothers someday. It was a mother who raised Mahatma Gandhi to change a nation, It was a mother who raised Ben Carson- the world renowned, heart surgeon ( retired). It was a mother who raised me, Adesewa, to be me. Let’s nurture ‘dem BROS’ in our lives, and help them become the Best Version of themselves.

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After all, if we don’t take care of them, who will?
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