DATING A MAMA’S BOY?


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First off, ‘mama’s boy’ kind of guys aren’t sexy at all. For the fact that he seeks for approval, or he is indecisive until mama says so is delirious. Ladies want men who are decisive in handling relationships. Giving us the comfort of knowing that he is our protector and head and above all, our man.
Secondly, what kind of special bond does a guy have with his mum that he or she (the mum) can’t let go when he is in an exclusive relationship with his lady? It is observed usually with single mothers who are so emotionally attached to their boys and find it hard to let go even when he is ready to move on. Ladies don’t sign up for their man’s mama’s issues. Aside from the jealousy felt about his closeness to his mother, it’s a threat. Nollywood has given us the clearer picture.
Let’s not get it wrong here. I have met guys who, even when their mothers are their all in all, there is this respect in the relationship boundary between himself, his mom and his lady. It’s really a thing to admire a man that knows the extent of excessive familiarity between his ladies. It makes him in charge of the women (King of Queens).
Imagine your guy running to tell his mom (let’s assume Patience Ozukwor, who plays infamous roles of the mother-in-law you don’t want to have) about the little argument you had last night or the mom being the decision maker of everything you will and want to do. If she is meddling in your affairs, she dictates and states the tone for the relationship. Now that’s a control freak mama. OMG! She is taking your place. So what are you going to do girl?
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BE SMART
Before getting in to a serious relationship you know is heading somewhere, you ought to know the kind of man he is and his emotional intelligence level. His family should be taken into consideration too. Don’t be blind or act as if you will handle issues when you know you don’t have that willpower or zeal. Girl know thy self-first, then you can surmise what you want from the relationship.
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DO NOT GIVE UP!
I repeat, DO NOT GIVE UP. Losers are quitters. Besides if you really love him, his mama shouldn’t be the reason for you to leave. If you know the heat is more from the mom, ensure to communicate to your man about how you feel and listen to his opinion. But if it’s from both parties, you know you will have to be the oven to contain them both. Kudos to you!
If you ever quit the relationship without making an effort, you will only be like a trophy to the mum who will assume that you weren’t even worth him in the first place. So roll up your sleeves, stay through thick and thin and be ready to be refined.

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NEVER LOSE YOUR COOL
Remember, any drama that revolves around the mum will involve you. This is the point where you become tactical in every sense of living; the way you address issues and communicate. You have to be smart. There shouldn’t be a reason for you to ever lose your temper on your man or his mom over menial issues you could ignore, avoid or even improve upon. The mother may begin to have respect or fear for you because most times, the mothers just like cocks, like to establish territories.

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NEED FOR WISDOM
Let’s also try to understand that someday we are going to be mothers and will want our boys to be so close to us. Just make sure that even though there is a blood bond between the two, you should meddle in their affairs with wisdom. Don’t ever try to step on toes unnecessarily. Be humble at all times even when you feel you want to burst out, refrain your tongue from speaking nonsensical words you know you can’t take back. Avoid whining or complaining. It sets the coal for flames of riot.
COMMUNICATE WITH HIM AND GIVE HIM TIME
In a subtle and constructive way let him know you’re not really comfortable with his actions and behavior. Be certain not to rub it in his face that he is a mama’s boy but make your true feelings known and seek for resolution. Do not force him to choose between the two of you, because you might lose him in the long run. Emotional attachments don’t just fade out like that, so be patient, let him see your devotion. Eventually you’ll see positive changes. 

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DO NOT SEEK TO REMOVE HER FROM THE PICTURE
Your primary aim is resolution, to live peacefully with him and his mother and to reduce her level of interference in your relationship. It will be extremely selfish and unfair to seek to remove her out of the picture being that she was long there before you, she’s blood and they’ve been dependent on each other for a long time. You should just make sure she understands your feelings, that you’re not shutting her out and you’re only trying to live happily. 
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BE PRAYERFUL
Pray that your man’s mother is understanding, civilized, educated, sensible, loving, accommodating, tolerant, open minded, cautious, wise, prayerful, supportive, and the list goes on and on.
Cheers!

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