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The voyage of the search for the dream girl is one filled with narrow paths, thorns, and Hydra of problems. Maturity in a ‘Bro’ comes with great complexity and complications, but of all, the adventure of seeking for the “Dream Girl” is the most complex, as it is full of twists and turns. For some Bros , amongst  their 99 problems getting the dream girl isn’t one, some have no clues, some others have to face a lot of challenges to meet  the  “Dream Girl’’ while  some are so good at going after the wrong lady.  Yet, all these still boils down to that one question ……………………………….
My Brothers on this wonderful Earth, are you falling for a girl who’s giving you mixed signals?

What do you do when a girl shows interest in you, and still puts you “On a Long Thing”? That’s a rather serious predicament, isn’t it? Falling in love is supposed to be a happy experience, not a confusing one or so we think… But every now and then, there comes a time when you unintentionally fall in love with a girl who seems right, but is completely wrong for you.
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Are you head over heels for a girl who blows hot and cold, who behaves like your girlfriend at times and snubs you like you don’t matter at other times when she doesn’t need you?  Then you get the “What am I yet to do” thought.
You’re probably giving your heart away to a girl who could just be toying with you, because she feels like it!

Why do some girls just enjoy leading a brother on?

If you’re in a complicated relationship with a girl who behaves like your girlfriend, but doesn’t want to date you, you’re definitely being led on. Do you wonder why women behave this way?
The reasons are many, but most times, the girl who’s leading you on probably likes you, but she needs more time to make up her mind about whether she really wants to date you
Some girls could lead a guy on because they want some drama in their own lives, or because they like getting a guy’s attention. The truth is it boosts their self esteem and fragile egos. Or in some circumstances, the girl who’s giving you mixed signals and leading you on could really like you, but she may be a people pleaser or an attention whore who’s too worried what her friends may think of you because she assumes you’re not good enough to show off to her friends. This is even worse.


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Are you reading the signs wrong?

Now as much as guys would love to lament about girls or grumble about how fickle women are, there is still a pretty big chance that the girl you like isn’t leading you on at all! Perhaps, she really likes you as a friend and is just being friendly with you because she feels comfortable around you. Girls are a lot more touchy feely than guys, and there’s a very good chance that you may be misunderstanding that friendly touch for a flirty touch. After all, there’s only a veiled line separating flirty friends and mixed signals. So if you start falling for a friend, you may assume she likes you back too because in your mind, that’s what you’re secretly hoping for.
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1. She Blows Hot And Cold.

She’s friendly and close for several days or weeks, and all of a sudden, she ignores you and won’t have time for you again. You see this happening pretty frequently, whereas she ignores you when she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys.

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2. She Claims To Have Dated Very Few Guys.

She probably tells you she’s been in very few relationships, but that’s probably because she leads on most guys she dates and doesn’t like calling them her ex boyfriends. If you know she’s dated a particular guy before and she claims she never dated that guy, but they were just friends, she’s definitely leading you on too!

3. A Relationship With No Name.

She flirts with you, goes out on dates with you, but doesn’t give the relationship a name. Both of you might be intensely attracted to each other, but she still calls you a good friend even as all your friends wonder what’s going on?!

4. She Avoids Having Conversations About Your Relationship

Someone who is unwilling to have conversations about where a relationship is going may be avoiding it because they’re worried they don’t want the same things as you and they don’t want to hurt your feelings. Make it easy on them by letting them know you’re OK with whatever they want, you just want to know so that you can make a decision about whether it’s a relationship you want to keep investing time and emotional energy into.
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5. She Never Texts You First (Unless It’s For A Booty Call)

If you find that you’re always the one to initiate communication, that’s usually a sign that you’re investing more than she is.  If the only time she hits you up is for late-night loving or to be her hand bag, then she’s probably not looking for much more out of the relationship. If you’re cool with that arrangement, have fun! But if you want more from her, be careful not to get too attached.

6. She May Fall for Another Guy.

When a girl is leading you on, she knows you would behave like a lost puppy and trail her even if she likes another guy. This girl who is leading you on may tell you about all the guys who are giving her attention, and she may even tell you about the guys she’s falling for. Its sounds okay for her to talk about who is she is falling for but when you talk about other girls, she pretends like she is not interested in hearing what you have to say, and she’s probably jealous deep inside.

7. She Is Faraway And Then She Wants To Be Closer

She’s distant and aloof when you get clingy or try to trail her all the time . When you give her a lot of attention, she tries to keep her distance from you. When you give her the space because she’s being distant, she immediately changes her behavior and starts craving for your attention when you back away. She tries to keep up with you and calls you often.
NB; some are stubborn they wouldn’t call, they are only going to make you feel jealous by flirting with another bro (victim). 

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8. She Only Seems Interested When You Start To Move On

If every time you start to pull away she suddenly expresses interest or wants to hang out, that’s not fair on you. If someone can’t give you the kind of relationship or commitment you want, you deserve to be able to find someone who does. Someone who’s only into you when you show interest in someone else probably isn’t that into you at all. Don’t waste time playing hard to get. If she plays games with you, it’s time to move on.

9. No Invitation

She looks for every single excuse to turn down invitations to your family events even if she graces your invitation she either leaves early or seats far from you. She never invites you to any of her family events to keep you away from the sight of her relatives most especially when you have a likable personality.

A girl who is leading you on might be using you

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If you are in a relationship with a girl who is just leading you on, you need to realize that her subtle manipulation tactics are just screwing your mind. She’s playing you and you are falling for all her tricks because your love for her clouds your judgment. Even if you confront her, or give her an ultimatum to date you or stop talking to you, she may break down or tell you that she really likes you, but she just needs more time to sort the confusions in her mind.
Think about what you really want for yourself. Of course, it feels really nice to hear from her and hear the sweet things she says, but you do know deep inside that all this is going nowhere. Eventually, she may just give you the cold shoulder or date someone else and you end up with the tag “just a very good friend” aka head of friend zonal head quarters 
Once you’re stuck in the clutches of a girl who leads you on, you have no choice. You screw your mind and obsess about where the relationship is going. You’re confused and frustrated, annoyed and angry, and yet, you can’t leave her or walk away from her because she knows just what to say and do to dig her nails deeper into your heart.

This girl who leads you on is like an addiction you can’t get rid of, and the only way to end this miserable excuse of a relationship is by picking a fight with her that’ll make her dislike you…….. Jake Butler

Pick a fight and say something that’ll hurt her ego, which would bring out her inner monster and make her hate you. Girls who love leading guys on have fragile egos, and when you drive a stake into her weak ego, she’d hate you for it. And there’s a big chance that she’d walk away from you for good……Hillary Sheinbaum 

Don’t quarrel with her  …… be at peace with her, If she is yours she would definitely come back for you , if she doesn’t belong to you, pack your load and paddle your canoe……….Segun Atilola   

 My Brothers, as you face the ups and downs of this wonderful world,  live your life to the fullest and do away with any lady who would put you on a long thing, because when you think of what you have gained while chasing after “Dream Girl” you would discover the time wasted.

Chase your dream Bro, you’ve got 99 problems and getting the “dream girl” shouldn’t be one for now. Your Hustle should be your Dream Girl, Quit dreaming Bro, open your eyes to reality….. TwElvo

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